Part of sex positivity is understanding that sex is a human act, so take time to educate yourself on the experiences of those who don’t share the same preferences as you. Talk with people who are celibate, bisexual, transgender, straight, those who enjoy BDSM or fetishes, literally anyone with a different sexual experience than your own. Becoming aware of how other people enjoy and live sexually not only helps you to understand them, but it also brings you closer to your own sexuality.
There is always a need for help at these spaces, and you can learn so much from the people around you. Planned Parenthood, Center for Reproductive Rights, and the National Women’s Health Network all take volunteers in different capacities. We all know how good it feels to make a difference in your community, but it’s even better when it impacts how you view other people.
We are big advocates for talking about sex. It’s fun, it’s educational, and it’s SO positive. Sometimes you just need a little sex talk sesh with your friends. Talking about sex with those around you directly goes against the ideas that we aren’t supposed to talk about something so uncomfortable and private. I’m here to say it’s totally okay to do so!
Embrace the weird. If a partner or a friend describes something they’re interested in, and you’re well, not, that’s okay. We’re allowed to have different sexual preferences, and what turns someone on might not do the same to someone else. If it’s a partner, talk to them about why they’re interested in that and come up with a way to make both of you happy.
Consent is a topic that can feel uncomfortable, but it’s important to bring up with everyone in your life. Your partner, your best friends, your male friends, your siblings, your parents — literally everyone can benefit from learning more about what consent means and what it is to you.
Never had sex? Woohoo! Can’t wait to get laid this weekend? YES! Stop apologizing for how you feel sexually. Yes, this is a human experience, but it is private, and it’s not something that needs to be discussed or “deliberated” on in any way. You’re allowed to feel whatever you want about sex, whether you’re into it or not. Also, if you’re not in the mood — it’s okay! Don’t apologize.
We all have awkward memories from sex ed in high school, but it doesn’t always have to be that way. Find out what the laws are in your state, call your legislators, talk to your local school board. Encourage those around you to do the same! Sex positive sex ed is all I could ever ask for for our next generation, and we have to be at the forefront to make sure it happens.
Obviously, bodies and sex are a pretty necessary pair. If you want to feel positively about sex, it’s pretty imperative that you have at least somewhat of a positive view on your body. We get that it takes time to do that, so here are 14 ways you can improve your body image.
I thought we all knew this by now, but I still see it CONSTANTLY. Slut shaming is the idea of criticizing women for behavior or clothing that is perceived as promiscuous. What exactly does talking poorly about another woman’s choices do for you? Absolutely nothing! Just stop it. Don’t discuss what other people do in the bedroom! Again, this is private, and it doesn’t need to be discussed by others. If you are going to discuss a woman’s fashion, make sure to do it positively rather than singling her out.
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Again, bodies are necessary for an enjoyable sexual experience! Make sure you do all the non-negotiables: always pee after sex, talk to your partners about STIs, and talk to your gyno if anything (seriously, anything) seems off.
Because scientific research proves that men are genetically wired to be sexually attracted to a woman with curves and women are wired to be sexually attracted to men who are slightly taller than they are
Men also rate the sexiest women as those who have a waist which is 60% of their hip size. Guys love our hourglass figure – not least of all in the bedroom.
OK, not all curvy girls are blessed with big boobs, but the chances do sway slightly more in their favour. Tits aren’t everything, but man, a decent pair rocking an Agent Provocateur underwear set is not going to hurt in the ‘turning up the heat’ department.
According to numerous studies, penis size is directly correlated height and all other bodily proportions of men.
Evolution: When humans still lived in caves, a man's height and bodily proportions were proof of how healthy they were. The general thinking was guys who were tall had great genes and were in good condition, how else would they be able to grow so much otherwise including the penis?
Having boobs and a backside, a bit of cellulite or something to grab hold of or towering over your mate is not exclusively what makes a curvy woman sexy – it’s knowing how to rock it that matters.
Beauty and sex appeal has nothing to do with size and everything to do with confidence and confidence has everything to do with amazing sex.
According to a study by Oxford University, big butts result in healthy children because of the high amount of Omega 3 fatty acids they store – so if you thought it was the PVC dress stretched over Kim Kardashian’s booty getting you hot, think again.
It’s your subconscious evolutionary way of ensuring healthy kids.
A man's height does have an impact on their sex life, with taller men tending to have more partners.
On top of that, the shortest men had the smallest amount of conquests.
Studies have shown for most women there is a certain minimal threshold of height, after which they will consider a male as a potential sex partner, and thus men above that height will end up with similar numbers of sex partners.